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Mate is saying there is a lot of stuff out there to assist you .. changing the habits, thinking , taking a walk , getting to the bottom within needs the change without.. "cold shower" .. the physical does change the mental . Asking yourself where is it coming from.? . loneliness? A break up . ,? A lack of self worth? You tube does have good stuff .. there is stuff out there that does not cost an arm and a leg rather than getting a crutch or addiction .. friends, family , gyms , yes books .. the tree , the sky .. the sea . A walk. A smile .. etc etc... there is so much the social media is in control of. Understanding is about change ..

I totally agree with this. Triggers will always be with you

Can you read a book Can you watch you tube videos Can you take a walk Join a chat and share your life

Insightful video. I despise my sibling and we hardly have anything in common.

I spend so much time alone that it hurts, but my friends disrespected me, i forgave them, then forgave again, they kept acting the same way, i didn't want to ditch them because id be alone, well, now i did, and they'll never have the balls i have, i have spent countless days and years basically alone, even when i was friends with them i wasn't invited out anywhere with them. My own family never meet up, its always a mention of a possible bbq, never happens. When i was a kid, we always got together, cousins, aunts, unlces, out for dinner, party at my uncles house, constantly meeting up. And my dads family are huge, 10 of them. My mothers family are the same, no communication. Isn't that pathetic??. It just annoys me so much, and then when you do meet up with them, you realise why it rarely happens, because people don't really like each other. So what do we do?, we just sit in our little boxes. My dads family text on watsapp, when my aunt and uncle are only an hour away and we haven't met up since 2018!, like what is going on?? In my opinion, any family, should meet at least twice per year. Some families gather at their grandparents every sunday!, not mine. i like my own time, but i wish i had people to chat with and have fun with, horrible when you're 33 and its felt like my lifes been over since i reached 20.

The world isa much better place with you in it Gabor 🤗

All those pieces of advice are useless for me, unfortunately. Have tried almost anything, looks like not every case is subject to healing.

The problem is these are all just coping mechanisms. They don’t actually cure the problem with these processes. It could take many years to finally identify what is really the core of the issue and then do the mental work to change your perspective or state of mind based on whatever it was, that is the original cause. Most people check out before they ever get to this point. They really need face-to-face interaction and support from people they can deeply connect with.

My goodness, Dr Gabor is smug and self-righteous. He's clearly never had major depression.

I wish I had hair like yours. Mine is the boring straight variety.

When you're depressed you can't read, all the talk os bullshit!

All I saw there was a woman flirting wtf. Lolol.

Dr Gabor Maté is a gift to humanity! I love his works. ❤

I think about prisoners in solitary confinement, those in the cold regions of Russia, or those eating only cassava roots for years in Antanimora prison. I consider people with incurable infections like huge warts and lumps over their skin, people who will never get a chance to eat at restaurants, or those without legs and hands. When I reflect on these situations, my depression and anxiety seem so trivial. I practice gratitude a lot. Life has no inherent meaning. It's a meaningless existence; we are just a cosmic coincidence. Our society is fixated and obsessed with possessions, status, achievements, and the idea of happiness. The feeling of happiness is fleeting by nature and not permanent. Our nature is impermanence. We let ourselves get worried because of "change." What can relax us is our ability to find meaning in our sufferings. Life is like a dream, and those who are sleeping feel it as real. Someday, death will come to wake us, laughing at our pain. -Rumi When the mind is in pain, use the body to heal it. There's no cure like physical movement for depression. Force your body to just move.

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Hii I am asmi. I was told i am too skinny to look good in any kind of clothing.... but I feel I slayyy anything ❤

Duh! Of course you care about yourself. This is horrible advice! When ppl are totally alone, it’s not at all helpful to go do more things alone. He’s not getting the magnitude of the anguish at all!!!

when i accepted suffering, grief and loss, i now cry a lot but the burden is now lighter, life , as long as you live here will be a pendulum of highs and lows, accept the bad as well as the good...the universe, all in all is perfect, so why waste your life in shutting out the bad

What about helping someone else when you are sinking? Even giving some food to someone …. Makes you see the world differently

This is all good advice but after being alone for over a decade watching self help UA-cam videos and Im still not healed and still alone it doesn't really help.

The way the therapist was talking while giving pieces of advice on how to overcome depression made me more depressed!

He can sit here and say these things but it sounds a bit like dhaming and putting the systemic and social trauma on the individual. Is it possible that Dr Mate is too far removed, too wealthy, and too comfortable to be realistically advising at this point. His advice feels like another smug shrugging deflection of compassion.

I feel a sense of solidarity just going through these comments. People say everyone’s depressed but why do we find ourselves alone in it when we look around? Everyone is not depressed and no one understands us. I just don’t know. I keep trying things and I keep coming back here. I don’t wanna be here anymore. I just want to feel love and peace.

He does a job he like wife children i am surprised that he didnt experince joy

All this advise doesn't change the facts of the situation your living through..that's it, all is good now, I looked at a tree and went for a walk, all the bills and stress just disappeared...wow profoundly informative..😂

I've reached the point that no, I can't go to the library, no I can't take a shower, no I can't go for a walk and certainly no I can't talk to a group of people. Also, no I can't afford a psychologist. It's not that I want to die but I'm SO tired of living, if you know what I mean.. 😞

Gabor Mate is a quack and a fraud.

BoooooM 🤯

Wow, good question.

Absolutely. I agree.

That's the thing, when you don't want a thing, you don't want a thing.

I agree

I had a very good childhood with trauma ..soj

If you close your eyes, you hear Cindy Lawpper. True Collors.😂

I have tried all these things… feeling further isolated & more depressed than ever.. reading the books & watching more yt videos, become an addiction in itself… I try but can’t seem to move through this. Single mom to 2 kids. They have no one but me, so I keep pouring from an empty cup, bc without support or village, who do you turn to? How do you find time/resources for yourself white also trying to be their rock? No one to pick up the slack or be the village while I do the work to heal my own trauma. The trauma I’m inadvertently passing on to them bc I feel inextricably stuck in this cycle & being aware of that makes me hate myself more, & the guilt that am supposed to be breaking this cycle! How do I heal & keeP from passing this trauma to my kids when I know I’M THE PROBLEM

Ditto

FIRST ADVISE! Get all your hormones checked first including thyroid and antibodies.

This is the most pathetic advice I've ever heard. It's not that we don't care about ourselves. It's that no one else does. Add to that facing homelessness and exhaustion, and ...now what, Doc?

Sometimes I feel that I’m just better of alone. I don’t wanna share this part of me to another person I know that no one wants so much pain and negativity around them (talking about romantic partner) I got dismorphia, I got trust issues, I think I’m better than the rest (huge ego), i have a drinking problem… I mean… I don’t even think I’m capable of living a happy life. I wish I was alone ….

Case point, no two siblings are raised exactly the same nor are they inherently the same. Both are integral in character development from childhood to an adult. Excellent explanation.

YUP ❗

Be the spark !

I relate , I understand ! Understanding comes from experience! My own experience! Gabor is so Right On ,his understanding comes by his own work on himself !!! I "GET IT" ❗

What she is saying is half truth , experience shows , I understand ,these are the repeated cycle of childhood trauma ! For me based on the first Seven Years of development! She may be speaking of her own cycles and not know it , but inspired to think it !

seems like this is someone who had never been through depression and loneliness

I can't even comment because it would come out so bleak, I don't want to make it harder for another sufferer

Finally, the truth! 🌟

unrecognized and unresolved traumas passed on to children later in life. you think you are better than your parents but actually carry the same scar tissue and most likely you will pass that on to your children whether you want it or not. broken homes just creates more broken people.

A man of intelligence. How refreshing !